Of Mugs and Mumbles: Post #1


There’s something I must admit:

In the last handful of years I’ve done less than a little writing and reading.

Honestly, I talk about reading and writing more than I do either these days, and it’s not something that made me feel proud. When I say writing, I mean all of those that I do from short stories to poetry to novel writing. This includes too my roleplay and fanfiction writing. The saddest part is that I use to do these things all the time until one day I started not doing them as often. It was a gradual decline that I didn’t notice at first and when I did it seemed difficult to reverse.


The reasons are numerous. There’s obviously ones that I don’t know and likely won’t figure out until later — if ever — though the purpose of this post is to be open. With that in mind I’ll list the ones that I do know.

Chronic Health Problems

It’s come up here before, and on my social media, that I often deal with health issues. The biggest one is my JRA(Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis), which I now refer to as just RA since I’m an adult, that I was diagnosed with around age five. However, on top of the RA there are other problems caused by it ranging from the havoc it wreaks on my immune system, the damage done to my body, the fatigue that bombards me, the brain fog fatigue can cause and the severity depending on how fatigued I feel, etc. can be difficult to handle. Separate from the RA I deal with chronic nerve pain, IBS(Irritable Bowel Syndrome), TMJD/TMD(Temporomandibular Joint Dysfunction), and some other things. These health issues can often make it difficult to read or write. Sometimes it could be that my hands are hurting a lot making it painful, if not downright impossible, to hold a pen or a mouse or a book. Other times it can be that my fatigue is being terrible and I don’t have the energy to make myself do anything let alone think clearly.


In recent years I’ve dealt with a lot of stress. The exception to that being the last roughly 10 months since moving to a new area and into my first apartment. Prior to that I’d been faced with the constant possibility of ending up homeless(my entire family actually though thankfully that’s not the case now) while living on severely limited funds which occasionally resulted in us not having enough near the end of the month and going hungry. And while that was not all of it that was enough to stress me out something awful. This caused other problems and worsened my health problems. As you can imagine reading and writing became more infrequent as I found it impossible to concentrate, and using either for escapism refused to work like it did in the past. When I would read I’d always end up having to re-read what I’d just read cause I couldn’t focus with my mind full of bigger concerns. Writing was much the same way in that I couldn’t come up with ideas let alone hold onto the desire to write them with other things taking focus. I still struggle with this some though the stress has been diminished largely, but I think it’s just residual stuff as well as a combination of my health and the next reason.

Depression & Anxiety

Alright, the first part of this has been a part of my life for longer than the last five years. It’s something I’ve been dealing with since at least my pre-teen years. Generally it relates to thoughts and feelings about my health problems. Being in pain and/or sick all the time can be as mentally draining as physically, and honestly at times more so. The stress made it worse along with making my health issues worse so it got really hard to handle at times. Add on that I started dealing with some anxiety around the point my stress and depression were at their absolute worst, and I was a complete mess. At one point my depression hit the scariest level that I’d ever faced before. Thankfully friends and loved ones helped me realize this before I hit bottom. Eventually I was able to get back to a good place, but it took awhile and though the last 10 months have been better in many ways I still deal with the depression, and minor anxiety, cropping up to interfere with the things I enjoy that usually help me with both issues.

While this isn’t everything, I think it’s enough to show what has been hampering my writing and reading. And what has been bothering me, of course. I still do both, but reading takes me longer(used to read multiple books in a week and now takes me sometimes a month to read one) and writer’s block/lack of muse problems happen with my writing often. Occasionally I’ll have writing ideas though no desire or energy to do anything with them. Lately I’ve been making more of an effort to read and write more. Luckily my roleplay/collaborative writing partners have been understanding and patient; not pushing too hard or getting upset over delays. They’ve worked with me instead so I’m making progress. My reading has been improving as well. It’s not progressing as quickly as my writing, but still I’m pleased. Doing book reviews on the blog has helped, and recently I took part in a read-a-thon which was quite enjoyable.

The biggest thing that has helped me though is talking about reading and writing. As I said earlier I didn’t feel proud about it though I didn’t consider it a cardinal sin. And I still don’t consider it one. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve seen articles or blogs that go on about how this is wrong. Some of these are by fellow writers — even published authors — that always say not to do it and that it doesn’t make you a real writer. These same judgments circulate about people who talk about reading more than they read.

Here’s the thing though: it’s nonsense.

There’s nothing wrong with it and there’s no reason to be ashamed.

Talking about things that you love is never wrong. I love to read and write, and talking about things I love is something I’m always going to do. It’s also something I’ll encourage others to do as well. Sometimes I’ll see people say they haven’t read a book/more than x number of books in x numbers of days/weeks/months/years and similar variations about writing, and inevitably it’s followed by them saying they’ve lost their interest or passion yet that’s not necessarily true. I still see them talking about it, doing small things that count as reading(stuff online, fanfiction, ficlets) or writing(drabbles, blog posts, fanfiction), discussing/recommending books or helping other writers that are struggling, and so forth that make it clear this is not the case.

What they don’t always see clearly in relation is that when life happens — inevitably rearing its angry fire-breathing heads — it’s demanding and draining. As a result certain things get shelved while others take priority even those you love. That doesn’t mean you have to stop or give up those things. I kept talking about reading and writing. I know that if I didn’t I would not be making the strides that I have been lately. I would probably be in a worse place since those issues I dealt with before, and still deal with in some respects, were gotten through easier cause I was able to talk about what I enjoy. I don’t want to think what my life would be like without reading and writing in it, and you don’t have to give something up cause you’re not using it.

When you feel like tossing them out — don’t. When you start to feel wrong for talk about what you love more than you do them — don’t.

Do what you need to do to get through whatever matter is making it necessary to shelve them, and when ready you can dust them off and take them down again.

Thanks for taking the time to read what I had to say. It helped me to get this out, and I hope that reading this helps anyone else struggling with life’s difficulties.


6 thoughts on “Of Mugs and Mumbles: Post #1

  1. I started a writing group two years ago to get me into writing again. Apart from a couple of random short blips, I didn’t actually write anything in those two years – my energy wasn’t up to it. But I spent time talking about writing, advising writers, supporting and consoling writers, and basically hanging around writers until I plucked up the courage to actually dive in for this year’s NaNo. If I’d tried to write too soon I would have screwed up, but if I’d left the group because “you’re supposed to write” it wouldn’t have happened either. Ignore the One True Way brigade. They’ll trip themselves up on their own arrogance eventually.

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    • Oh my, I totally missed this comment. My headspace has been weird lately. My deepest apologies. =) Thank you for such kind words. And I am so glad that you have found the courage to write again. Sometimes we have to work on letting ourselves enjoy the things we love in other ways, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. How goes your NaNo?

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      • So-so. I wrote 20,000 before fatigue beat me for a few days. Then I found an ancient blog with details of my old life, so that boosted my word count by about 5,000. (Yeah, it’s cheating but so what). Then I came down with a cold, so now I haven’t written anything for four days. At least it’s happening. I won’t worry too much about statistics. 🙂

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      • Eh, I wouldn’t say it’s cheating giving what you’re writing. =D And yeah, that fatigue is terrible. I’m back on the 50000 units of Vitamin D once a week regimen, and then after that finishes my doctor wants me to take 2000 units a DAY. It’s rough. I’ve been dealing with that on top of the tendonitis this month so it hasn’t been pleasant. I’m just so happy to hear that you ARE writing though. That’s the important thing to take away here. You had to shelve it for awhile, but then you were able to pull it down later when ready and you didn’t just say ‘I guess I’m done being a writer now’ at all. I can’t wait to read your book.

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  2. Good luck with the Vitamin D. If my current pathway doesn’t work, I’m also considering Vitamin D.

    I’ve given up on projects and come back to them before. It’s often the case when people have multiple interests. I subscribe to a site called Puttylike, which is for people like me who can’t and won’t commit to one career/passion/project in life. It’s here if you’re interested.


    As for being a writer, I wrote a few paragraphs in my book that are sort of related. It’s probably easier if I quote them 🙂

    There is a modern trend towards identity, and defining things you do as your identity. Everything has to be a “passion” or a “vocation”. You don’t just do something, you are it. You don’t just write, for example: You Are A Writer. You buy the fancy notebooks and boast about how much coffee you drink. It gives you a sense of being grounded, knowing who you are, and having a tribe (the trendy word for community). But there are pitfalls. Suddenly, a run of writer’s block or loss of confidence becomes all-important. You can’t just go and do something else. Being a writer is your deep, soul-resonating meaning. Writing is the thing you do to become who you are. Not writing is basically a sin against yourself, and being called “not a writer” is the worst insult in the book – it’s the voice of someone trying to efface you, and it strikes to the core. Plus you don’t feel you belong in the in-crowd any more.

    Who benefits? Apart from the self-help gurus and the makers of fancy notebooks and artisan coffee. (I don’t use the word “artisanal”. I don’t care if it’s correct; my inner 12-year-old sniggers at “anal” and I can’t work.) Is it good for you to be so personally invested in a single, solitary pursuit? Of course, a dry spell in your writing is always going to be awkward and a bash to your ego. Especially if writing’s what puts food on the table. But take the identity thing out and it’s no longer a thing of heartwrenching awfulness. I’m not saying we need to lose identity altogether. Judging by my own work, I am a graphic designer, a layout artist, a marketer, and now a writer too. If you can only define yourself as X when you do it all the time, then I am nothing. And “I am nothing” is never a helpful mentality.

    I’m saying we should lose the heavy focus on “I am”. Just do things we like, and (since this isn’t a free society) things we need to do to get by. Stop the soul-searching and the ceaseless quest for self-definition. It’s limiting. Every “I am” hides a host of “I am nots”, whether in work, play or personal values. I am a writer, so I am not a mechanic. I am a hedonist, so I am not a potential good parent. I am not a conservative, so I am obviously a feminist. What happened to your simple, unmediated reactions to new things? They got buried under an avalanche of assumptions. Every label is another stone. But life is about ducking and diving, and it doesn’t work too well when you’re weighted down.

    Leave the whole idea alone or you’ll never be happy. Once you’ve been doing what you like for a while, you start observing patterns, and then there’s space for some provisional, pencilled-in “I ams”. Always plural, and subject to change. You’ll see yourself as a slowly unfolding narrative that just needs space to breathe, rather than a robot which must fulfil its determined function on pain of ego-death. The paradox is, you might find yourself more productive in your projects, simply by caring less about them. They’ll be easier to pick up without conflict and put down without guilt. Productivity won’t suffer when you put them down, because you’ll switch to another project or take a necessary break. Just do things you like, and the identity problem will look after itself.


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    • That was well put. Your book is definitely going to have a lot of good stuff in it just going off that sample. =) Honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever identified myself as one thing. It’s like picking a single favorite or so many favorites of things: I’m not good at it. I’ve always been more of an ‘I ams’ person who identifies as a variety of thing. Like with my music, I make it clear that I’m a rather eclectic listener. As a person, I’m much the same. Writer’s block though does frustrate me. Not cause I can’t go and do something else — I can do many other things if I choose — but I’ve had a hardcore love of writing since I was little and whenever blocks happen it just leaves me frustrated that something keeps me from writing when I want to be writing. It’s hard to deal with at times.

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